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Thank you for sharing this. Since I read it I have been thinking about what it means to be in community with someone who is being stalked or someone who is escalating to stalking and what those surrounding those people should do to help the target or dissuade the perpetrator.

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Your point about identifying people in our communities who are enabling or escalating to stalking is a really important one. We need to deal with all sides of the problem, as well as the cultural mythology that frames stalking as love.

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Thanks for sharing, yes. And "Rich" probably moved on to do this to someone else. A control-freak, sadistic bully. So sorry that happened to you.

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Thanks. I found out after the fact that he had done it to the girlfriend before me, so I'm sure you're right.

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What's so terrible when you're really young is that you don't know that with a person like that, you're never the only one. Takes a while to get it--when someone treats you like crap, you're never the first, last, or the only current one.

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TRUE! And that's another reason we need to change the way we talk about it. It's not romantic. It's not just entertainingly idiotic behavior. It's harassment that can and does lead to violence.

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You know that I have had my eye on this entire situation, both as a social worker and a celeb enthusiast. Ye’s behavior is 100% classic stalking behavior that often ends in violence. I am not joking when I say that Kim is fortunate to have access to high-level security. Thanks for sharing your very personal story. This is a serious matter.

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Thank you for chiming in, Bex! Have you had experiences with stalking situations as a social worker?

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Yes, definitely. I started my career working in women’s shelters but encountered these kinds of cases in every job I ever had as a social worker.

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